Last week, I shared with you how effective time-in time has been in our home for learning to work through emotions.
Recently, I came across some discussion on choosing to send a two year old to his room for time-outs to get over "bad attitudes" so that he would be trained not to "indulge his emotions." A friend responded in a way that brilliantly captures and confirms why I think time-ins have been so successful in our home. It's a perspective I needed this week, and I knew I had to share:
If you don't have the language to express your emotions,
lack impulse control,
lack maturity borne of experience,
lack the physical and mental ability to do many of the things you want to do and are therefore often frustrated,
having only lived on the planet for 900 days or so,
then you shouldn't also lack an understanding and sympathetic parent who can often mitigate those areas of need, model proper behavior, redirect you from frustrating situations, and comfort you when you need it,
instead of sending you to your room, alone and empty-handed.
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